Trust can be a very nebulous thing between lovers. Just look at all the women that stay with men who cheat on them. They can’t trust the guy, but they stay anyway.
Appreciation, as opposed to trust, is bigger in a relationship then you may imagine.
When someone cheats on us we might tell him or her that all of the trust in the relationship has disappeared. However in reality something else might be going on.
Subconsciously or consciously we are feeling like our partner does not approve of us. The fear is that we are no longer sexually attractive. It is a lot easier to say that we don’t trust a person then admit that we are jealous, insecure or heartbroken.
However, when you do get back with your ex you are not going to talk about your fears, jealousy or heartbreak. There will be no mention of a lack of trust. All talk of the past, insecurity and resentment will be verboten. You must resolve all of your obsessive, resentful and unattended –to feelings before you meet your ex again.
When you get back together with your ex the only messages you will be giving him or she is that he or she is trusted and sexually desired. The very fact you are back in his or her life shows your faith in that person and that things will work out for the best.
The reason there is still hope for the two of you is precisely because you are willing to admit that people are fallible, that they say things in the heat of an argument that they don’t mean and that you still trust the person enough to give it a second try without bringing up the past.
Unfortunately most of us like to stick with the Devil we know rather than investigate the possibility of finding a romance. It is a mistake to think that scheming about how to get your ex back is a productive use of time, especially if he is betrayed you and there is a trust issue. Before you consider how to get your ex boyfriend back you might want to examine the reasons why you want him back and be honest with him.
This are very few situations in which it is acceptable to consider how to get your ex boyfriend back. Very rarely are breakups the result of some kind of Shakespearean style misunderstanding full of miscommunications. Breakups usually happen because you have grown to be incompatible or because there has been a trust breakdown.
However if you have examined all the reasons that you want to get back together with him or her and found that your motives are pure then it might be alright to move forward with the strategy about how to become a couple again.