Tips for Starting Conversations With Men

 

If you have always wanted to walk up to a man and say hello, but have never had the confidence or self-esteem to before, then here are some good ideas.

 

The best way to introduce yourself is to simply wheedle your way up to where he is standing and say something like “so what do you think of the band?”  Actually it is even better to make it less general than that and say something like “Did you get a load of that base player’s long fingernails?”  Adding a touch of humor to your observations about where you are always helps break the ice.

 

Although they seem like stern forbidding creatures, most men can’t resist responding to a compliment about their clothes. Of course, don’t risk complimenting a man on something that looks kind of shoddy as in “nice comb over job with the hair, pal!”  Try making a nice remark about his cotton shirt, his shoes or even his cigarette lighter or cell phone.  Remember too, that your remarks should be tailored to what appeals to the masculine among us. Try a more flirtatious remark such as “I bet that rough stubble on chin feels a bit itchy” may not go amiss either.

 

Another icebreaker is to change the age-old rules and offer to light his cigarette for him. Most men are usually pleased to allow the lady to offer them this little indulgence. If he is not that type, then usually a spirited conversation usually follows this attempt any way!

 

Now this one is a bit dishonest, but I believe it has a great success rate. Try the old “don’t I know you from somewhere” line except twist it a bit to be phrased like “Hey how you doing! Did you enjoy the soccer game!”?  Then when he reveals he wasn’t there, go “oops” and say, “You mean you aren’t the guy that tripped me?” Then introduce yourself.  A sporting event is always a good choice because it makes him think that the two of you share compatible interests. Drama Queens could also try throwing a drink on the guy and then exclaiming “Ooops! “I thought you were someone else.”  Then you have a great opportunity not only to talk with him but also dab his body thoroughly with a cloth.

 

Another line that men seem to like is “You seem like a challenge.”  This makes them feel all brave and daring, like the Count of Monte Cristo. This is a good follow up line if you do say hi to a man you think is interested but then he just looks at you and doesn’t respond. At the very least, that kind of line makes the laugh, but most of them can barely conceal their broad smile at being perceived as a rebel and loner.

 

Remember you are a reflection of him and you must be the most flattering depiction possible.